Monday, January 23, 2012

Why Kids Will Make You More Successful in Your Career

Guest Post by Cynthia Kocialski
Author, Out of the Classroom Lessons in Success

It doesn’t make sense, does it? Raising a family is a huge time commitment. It would seem that such an undertaking would make career women less focused on success, but that’s not the case. Why?

Your Success Is Their Pride

When kids are very young, they don’t say much. They are just happy if you spend time with them, but this changes as they grow older. Kids become aware of their friends and classmates, what they have and what they do. Kids are competitive in this manner. They want more than the other kids, they want to do everything that the other kids do and more, and they want to be the first to have something.

One day when my oldest daughter was seven, I picked her up from summer camp. As we were driving home, she said, “Katie’s mom is a very famous hand surgeon. She’s one of the best in the world. What do you do, Mom?” Oh my goodness, my daughter wanted a rundown of my resume. When I wrote my first book, my daughter was my biggest fan. She wanted to take the proof copy to school. I still remember how proud she was to show everyone the book that day. She told all our neighbors. She told all of her friends’ parents. She told anyone who would listen to her.

Parents don’t want to fail in the eyes of their children, parents want their children to be proud of them, and children want their parents to be special. And so this is what gives your career the kick it needs to get going.

Your Actions Become Their Actions

Every parent wants health, happiness, and success for their child’s future. When children are very young, they don’t understand language well. As a result, they figure things out by observing actions or by scrutinizing pictures. Even when they become better at language, this ability to observe and imitate carries on for a long time.

Every career woman has examined and analyzed her career to date, asking herself what she did right or wrong, and what are her strengths and weaknesses. We know the mistakes we’ve made and vow never again.

Admit it. We have hope that our children will be better than us -- smarter and wiser. But then comes that moment when your child does something, something you swore you’d never do again, and you are taken aback. How could this happen? Your child is doing what you know won’t work. Your child has picked up on something that you know will hold them back in the future -- something you did or are. You think to yourself, you said nothing, you used no words -- ever. But there it is, that flaw. It’s that moment when you realize that unless you become the person you’ve always dreamed of, unless you become better, that your child will become you! That old clichĂ© of “Do what I say, not as I do” is rubbish!

It’s the AHA moment! You finally realize that their future depends upon your future. It’s when you become highly aware that all your hopes for their future are based upon you leading by example.

Cynthia Kocialski is the founder of three tech start-up companies. In the past 15 years, she has been involved in dozens of start-ups. Cynthia writes the Start-up Entrepreneurs’ Blog. Cynthia has written the book, Out of the Classroom Lessons in Success: How to Prosper Without Being at the Top of the Class. The book serves up tips, insight, and wisdom to enable young adults and parents of kids to know what it will take to forge a successful career, no matter what their academic achievement. Please join her on Facebook.

1 comment:

  1. Great advice for the New Year. Looks like a must have book for parents and youth.


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