Friday, September 18, 2009

Day 5: The 12 Days Til My Birthday Giveaway

Welcome to Day 5 of my birthday giveaway! Today’s giveaway book is:

You’d Be So Pretty If…
Teaching Our Daughters to Love Their Bodies—Even When We Don’t Love Our Own
By Dara Chadwick

If you’ve ever been around a preschooler, you know all too well how it feels to hear your own words—the good, the bad and the ugly—echoed back to you in a child’s play. So, imagine how you’d feel if you walked in on your beautiful seven-year-old daughter telling her doll, “Ugh, Mommy shouldn’t have eaten that ice cream. I’m getting so fat.”

Older kids and teenagers are quick to catch on to those moments when our behavior doesn’t match the advice we dole out. Whether it’s cigarette smoking, living a sedentary lifestyle, or eating foods that we know aren’t good for us, our kids are always watching our health example. For mothers, this example plays a particularly important role in their daughters’ developing body image. Sure, we’re all guilty of making a little self-disparaging comment about our bodies now and then (“I hate my fat arms” or “I can’t stand my skinny chicken legs”), but think there’s no harm in those comments?

Consider the following:

• 42% of first- through third-graders want to be thinner.
• 81% of ten-year-olds are afraid of being fat.
• A recent study found that over two-thirds of girls surveyed say they’d rather be “mean” or “stupid” than fat.
• According to the National Eating Disorders Association, more than 10 million American females struggle with eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia, with the peak onset occurring around puberty.

Four out of five women are dissatisfied with their appearance, according to yet another study, and our body dissatisfaction is spilling over onto our daughters. According to Real Girls, Real Pressure: A National Report on the State of Self-Esteem, commissioned by the Dove Self-Esteem Fund in June 2008, 67% of girls ages 13 to 17 turn to their mother when they’re feeling bad about themselves, while 91% of girls ages 8 to 12 do. Little changes to our behavior toward our bodies can go a long way in helping our daughters feel great about theirs.

How we talk about—and treat—our bodies has a profound effect on how our daughters feel about theirs. Dara Chadwick’s You’d Be So Pretty If… argues that moms are powerful role models for their girls, and that with a bit of tweaking, we can model positive body behavior—and we don’t even need to look like supermodels or have supermodel confidence to do it.

To enter to win a copy of this groundbreaking book, simply leave a comment answering the question:

What do you like least—and best—about your appearance?

One winner will be randomly selected from the qualified entries received by September 19, 2009, at midnight EST. One entry per person please. Make sure you leave an email address if it’s not on your Blogger page. Winners have 72 hours to respond or a new winner will be selected.

Congratulations to "panicxduh," who said, "I have intense issues with my hair. I used to be in agouraphoic because of it... My best feature would have to be my stomach-- It took alot of hard work and walking in the morning but I'm proud to say I love it!"

To learn more about The 12 Days Til My Birthday Giveaway, click here.


  1. i least like my stomach after having my little girl. i like my eyes mostly.

  2. Oh, I so need this book! My 9 year old daughter is already having body image issues, and I lament the fact I had something to do with it because of my own!

    Worst: My tummy and hips.

    Best: Uh. Overall, I'm fit and look younger than my age. Trying to embrace that more, rather than nitpick!!

    Thanks for the chance!

    heypooks at gmail dot com

  3. I have 3 girls, and I also hate my fat stomach. I suppose they will hate theirs one day too, ha.

    My best would probably be my hair. I likes it.

  4. I dislike my weight, even though I have almost lost 100 pounds so far. I most like my body as a whole, however, because it allowed me to give birth to my wonderful baby girl.

    My sister and I both struggle with body image issues, and I do not want to pass them along to my DD. Thank you for this giveaway!

    ceevegnashville [at] gmail [dot] com

  5. I like my turkey waddle the least, and my big breasts the most. Which is interesting, because I hated my chest for years and years, and then realized that it was ridiculous to hate these things that others pay to have.
    Alicia Webster

  6. least - my teeth

    best - my legs

  7. I least like my hips, most like my face.

  8. I'm trying to train my husband not to talk about any weight issues around my 5 year old already because he is petrified she is going to have weight struggles. She's not even done growing yet!!

    Least favorite feature - baby bootie and thighs (I blame the kids!)

    Favorite - Super toothy smile and rockin' arms (thank you yoga!!)

  9. my hair my eyes

  10. Anonymous7:52 PM

    Least my stomach
    best my bust
    Diane Baum

  11. I used to love everything about my body. Until I had my daughter. I hate my tummy after my c-section scar. I love my hair and eyes!

  12. Anonymous9:30 PM

    i have intense issues with my hair,
    i used to be in agouraphoic because of it...
    My best feature would have to be my stomach--
    It took alot of hard work and walking in the morning::
    but i'm proud to say i love it!

  13. I hate my stomach after having two kiddos, but I do like my eyes!

  14. Thank you for the giveaway!

    I don't like anything about my body, I have self esteem issues myself. I do however, like my eyes the best.

    I have an 8 year old daughter who we tell everyday how beautiful she is but, she is starting to have a lot of issues with "am I getting fat" and such. 8 years old? It's sad that our children are learning these hateful things so young.

  15. I like the least how I seem to have filled out in the last few years. I love my eyes the best.

  16. I don't like my feet., they look like man feet.
    I do love my eyes.
    haha, even when my boyfriend tells me I have eyes like a deer. I take that as a compliment.

  17. I dont like my stomach, I like my smile :)

  18. I love my eyes but hate my stomach.

  19. Least? My hair, Most? My eyes.

  20. I am always told that I look great for my age. The problem I have is my weight. I have had five daughters and need to get fit. I have plenty of shape. (Get in shape) lol This would be a great book to have since I have only daughters. Thanks,

  21. Anonymous5:31 PM

    I do not like my waistline; I like my legs!

  22. Anonymous6:30 PM

    I moost like my face. I least like the chubby roundness of my tummy and my thighs.


  23. I really hate my belly and love my eyes.

  24. I hate my big belly and love my ears....but seriously....I could really use this book for my teen daughter. This has been a subject that we have been having many issues with for the past year.

  25. I do not like my nose :(

  26. I have great hair! My eyes are a pretty green, and I have a pug nose that my daughter (fortunately) inherited. I really dislike my stomach area. I had 2 C-sections, so I have a flap for a stomach, which is hideous. My chest used to be so great, but with age, they are starting to sag. I never say these things to my 7-year-old because she is sensitive to things that I say. I think this book would be an excellent way for us to communicate about these issues since she is already starting to question her body shape.

  27. I hate my twin skin (flat but very wrinkly belly skin) and love my eyes.


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