Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Day 10: The 12 Days Til My Birthday Giveaway

Welcome to Day 10 of my birthday giveaway! Today’s giveaway book is:

Liking the Child You Love
Build a Better Relationship with Your Kids—Even When They’re Driving You Crazy

By Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D.

Book Description:

Do you feel like you’re at the end of your rope? Are you exhausted by your kids arguing over every little thing? Finally there’s a name for your feelings: “Parent Frustration Syndrome” (PFS). No kid is perfect, but parents often don’t realize just how much their own thoughts, rather than their children’s behavior, contribute to being emotionally overwhelmed.

In Liking the Child You Love, renowned psychologist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein offers proven strategies for taming the 9 most common toxic thought patterns that stop us from parenting effectively.

As you identify and put a stop to PFS, you’ll be amazed at how your kids’ defiant behavior quickly improves, without having to raise your voice or dole out harsh punishments. Soon you will have a calmer, happier, and more loving relationship with your kids—just by changing your own mind.

About the Author:

Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist specializing in child and family therapy in the Philadelphia area. A well-known parenting and relationship expert, he is the author of several books, including 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child.

To enter to win a copy of this book, simply leave a comment answering the question:

What is your most challenging discipline problem with your child(ren)?

One winner will be randomly selected from the qualified entries received by September 24, 2009, at midnight EST. One entry per person please. Make sure you leave an email address if it’s not on your Blogger page. Winners have 72 hours to respond or a new winner will be selected. U.S. residents only.

CONTEST CLOSED. Congratulations to the winner, Heather, who wrote: "My most challenging discipline problem is naptime and bedtime. My son just refuses and we have to resort to threatening with time out."

To learn more about The 12 Days Til My Birthday Giveaway, click here.


  1. My most frustrating issue right now is my 6 year old talking back, rolling his eyes at everything we say, and being completely disrespectful to us. He does not act like this outside of the house, so I'm not sure what we're doing to provoke this. It drives me insane! I would LOVE a copy of this book! amy at originalcouponcoach dot com

  2. Not listening to what they are told to do.

  3. Anonymous10:13 AM

    I also had the talking back problem with my kids. They had to ask why did they have to? Why couldnt they? screaming crying absolute chaos! I want this book so I can learn how to help my kids as they have kids of their own now!
    Maybe I can learn from my mistakes with grandkids!

  4. AAAAHHHH! Susan! I NEED this book! The boy in this house has been pushing me to my end every day. If it's not dawdling constantly, it's whining about anything I ask him to do or just throwing himself in to a full blown meltdown. And he's 4! He's supposed to be over this! Please? Pretty please?!

  5. Having 5 year old triplets and a 12yr old son one of our challenging issues is that our triplet son always wants to be with his big brother in his room watching him, being with him attached to his hip. Athough this is a nice thing our 12 yr old gets frustrated with his little brother (mostly because the little brother wont stop talking) so then when big bro tells him to get out of his room--watch out the world is going to come down--then there is arguing, crying and craziness--I honestly could go on with other challenges-I could so use some advice--Thanks Marie

  6. I could use this, between my 2 and 4 yr old I need help with listening and getting along

  7. Hello from Mozambique! I work at an orphanage here, living in a dorm with currently 30 boys, ages 5-9. I am a US resident, have a US address and will be there in one short month for a break for Thanksgiving, yay!

    My biggest problem is my kids who "rage" as I say it. I can handle (mostly!) the day to day stuff but I have a few hurting boys who when they get angry or upset, they topple lockers, break brooms, break windows, etc. I sometimes escalate their anger I think when I desperately want to help calm them down.
    Thanks for this giveaway!

  8. Anonymous3:05 PM

    Eating the family meals

  9. My most challenging problem with my son is sassy talking and talking back. Thanks for the chance,

  10. My biggest problems are the fights over eating food.

  11. Our most challenging problem is general defiance against house rules.

    abfantom at yahoo dot com

  12. My most challenging problem is my 15 year old that just looks at you with a blank look if you ask him a question.


  13. My most challenging problem is my daughter laughing when she is getting in frustrating!!!

  14. My issue is an arguement every night who sits where. OMG.

  15. My son is 3 and doesn't listen- or act on what he hears anyway... I imagine this is age and reading other comments I suppose I'm lucky because we've got years before he just doesn't listen at all!
    inalak at msn dot com

  16. Mary R7:38 AM

    "I get to go first." "No, I get to go first.

    "I get to sit by Mom." "No, it's MY turn."

    On and on with everything and anything my 10-yr old twin girls can argue over if it "isn't fair" for the other one to get whatever it is that they are arguing over at the moment.

  17. I have problems getting my daughter to listen to me. Somedays it's like she wakes up with the intention of not listening to me. She will listen to my husband but not me. And, it's only when no one else is around. I'm not sure why she does it. If I put her in a corner, she will scream and scream.

  18. My most challenging discipline problem is naptime and bedtime. My son just refuses and we have to resort to threatening with time out.

    rsbryswrrl at gmail dot com

  19. My son is 2 and I find it really hard to get him to understand what he is doing wrong and not to throw tantrums!

  20. I have a problem with one child's lies.


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