In How Toddlers Thrive, Dr. Tovah Klein empowers parents everywhere to understand the often-mystifying aspects of toddler behavior. Going deeper, she delivers an eminently practical program for ensuring toddlers receive the right kinds and amounts of attention, guidance and reinforcement they need to develop such key skills as resilience, self- reliance, self-regulation and empathy. Her extensive research and interaction with thousands of toddlers makes her uniquely qualified to show the way to “toddlertopia” -- where the little ones are happy and flourishing while parents watch with proud smiles on their faces.
Beginning with a relatable, down-to earth foreword by Sarah Jessica Parker -- one of the many parents in New York City and beyond whose children have benefited greatly from Dr. Klein’s guidance -- How Toddlers Thrive unpacks the toddler mind, making sense of the unique combination of headstrong independence and close attachment that can be perplexing to both new and experienced parents.
Dr. Klein then breaks down the latest scientific understanding of toddler brains to definitively show that these are the years when the neural pathways needed for thriving in life are laid down. After finishing this initial section, parents will be far more effective with their toddlers, as they will have the ability to see the world from a toddler’s viewpoint and understand the critical question of why their little ones do the (sometimes inscrutable) things they do.
In the second half of the book, readers get a practical, adaptable set of techniques for “cracking the code” of toddler behavior, from how to handle specific challenges like eating, sleeping and toilet training to broader concepts like managing change and sharing. Dr. Klein’s groundbreaking and essential insights include:
• Why “The Terrible Twos” is a myth, and how accepting it as a given is a mistake.
• The inadvertent ways well-meaning parents “shame” toddlers and in doing so harm their development.
• Why taking a “seven day” view of a toddler’s eating habits -- as opposed to strictly enforcing every single meal -- is the only approach to healthy eating that is unlikely to backfire.
• How parents can identify and learn from the important links between how they were parented and how they approach raising their toddlers.
• Why telling a toddler to share can be a bad idea.
• Everything you need to know about tantrums -- when and how to nip them in the bud, and when to let them be.
How Toddlers Thrive concludes with a motivating “Fifteen Seeds of Success” plan that crystallizes why the toddler years are a true lab for later, and lays a strong foundation for long-term happiness and fulfillment -- for parent and toddler alike.
Foreword by Sarah Jessica Parker
I come from a big family. My childhood memories include plenty of playful days, and lots of siblings taking care of one another, serving as extra sets of hands for my parents. We were very loved but also allowed to be independent. I became a mother to a much smaller brood, and initially approached mothering my first child (and then the other two) with as much intensity and fierce determination as my mother had given all of her eight kids combined. All the while feeling -- like many mothers -- that I wasn’t doing enough. Then I met Tovah Klein and realized that my mother may have had it right all along. Tovah taught me that the space given to children raised in a big, bustling family may actually do a better job giving them a sense of self, of self-respect, and of confidence in their own accomplishments. Tovah taught me how to resist the temptation to fix everything, and instead give my children the opportunity to learn how to problem-solve for themselves.
My three children are all different, but my husband and I have the tools to parent each of them in ways that works for them. One is outgoing, another cried and cried whenever I left her at school, and another is cut and dry. Tovah taught me that there is no one right way to parent, and no right way for children to experience childhood. Judging myself or the child risks inadvertently imposing a feeling of shame that does more to set back than to help. Tovah’s parenting approach enabled me to get inside the complicated mind of my then two year olds; to give choices, but not too many; to establish order and still give them freedom. I went from feeling overwhelmed to feeling confident, all while giving my children their own sense of confidence in themselves that I see further developing as they grow. I hope the same for you and your children. Enjoy!
About the author, Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D.
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Tovah has served as a developmental advisor for Sesame Street and is on the advisory boards for Room to Grow, Rawanda Educational Assistance Project and NYC Voices of Childhood. Her advice has appeared in The New York Times, Redbook, Parents, and countless other publications. She is the mother of three boys and lives in New York City.
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