Friday, September 18, 2009
Welcome to Day 5 of my birthday giveaway! Today’s giveaway book is:
You’d Be So Pretty If…
Teaching Our Daughters to Love Their Bodies—Even When We Don’t Love Our Own
By Dara Chadwick
If you’ve ever been around a preschooler, you know all too well how it feels to hear your own words—the good, the bad and the ugly—echoed back to you in a child’s play. So, imagine how you’d feel if you walked in on your beautiful seven-year-old daughter telling her doll, “Ugh, Mommy shouldn’t have eaten that ice cream. I’m getting so fat.”
Older kids and teenagers are quick to catch on to those moments when our behavior doesn’t match the advice we dole out. Whether it’s cigarette smoking, living a sedentary lifestyle, or eating foods that we know aren’t good for us, our kids are always watching our health example. For mothers, this example plays a particularly important role in their daughters’ developing body image. Sure, we’re all guilty of making a little self-disparaging comment about our bodies now and then (“I hate my fat arms” or “I can’t stand my skinny chicken legs”), but think there’s no harm in those comments?
Consider the following:
• 42% of first- through third-graders want to be thinner.
• 81% of ten-year-olds are afraid of being fat.
• A recent study found that over two-thirds of girls surveyed say they’d rather be “mean” or “stupid” than fat.
• According to the National Eating Disorders Association, more than 10 million American females struggle with eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia, with the peak onset occurring around puberty.
Four out of five women are dissatisfied with their appearance, according to yet another study, and our body dissatisfaction is spilling over onto our daughters. According to Real Girls, Real Pressure: A National Report on the State of Self-Esteem, commissioned by the Dove Self-Esteem Fund in June 2008, 67% of girls ages 13 to 17 turn to their mother when they’re feeling bad about themselves, while 91% of girls ages 8 to 12 do. Little changes to our behavior toward our bodies can go a long way in helping our daughters feel great about theirs.
How we talk about—and treat—our bodies has a profound effect on how our daughters feel about theirs. Dara Chadwick’s You’d Be So Pretty If… argues that moms are powerful role models for their girls, and that with a bit of tweaking, we can model positive body behavior—and we don’t even need to look like supermodels or have supermodel confidence to do it.
To enter to win a copy of this groundbreaking book, simply leave a comment answering the question:
What do you like least—and best—about your appearance?
One winner will be randomly selected from the qualified entries received by September 19, 2009, at midnight EST. One entry per person please. Make sure you leave an email address if it’s not on your Blogger page. Winners have 72 hours to respond or a new winner will be selected.
CONTEST CLOSED. Congratulations to "panicxduh," who said, "I have intense issues with my hair. I used to be in agouraphoic because of it... My best feature would have to be my stomach-- It took alot of hard work and walking in the morning but I'm proud to say I love it!"
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