In their e-newsletter, Children’s Writing Update, Children’s Book Insider recently reprinted an article written by Kathryn Vercillo on her blog, Real Words from a Real Writer entitled “25 Simple Mantras for Every Writer to Remember.” It was a terrific list of 25 simple mantras that can inspire writers to keep writing when the going gets tough. This wonderful post inspired me to write the following list of mantras for parents to inspire you when you’re having a tough day in raising kids.
1. My children are a gift, and I am blessed to have them.
2. I deserve time to myself to refresh and rejuvenate.
3. Whatever I accomplish today is good.
4. If my children know they’re loved, I’m doing well.
5. Perfection is overrated.
6. It’s okay to make mistakes.
7. My needs are important, too.
8. I am not in competition for the “Best Parent Award.”
9. Giving my time is more important for my kids than giving them things.
10. Making rules and enforcing them help my children feel secure.
11. I have good instincts on what is best for my child.
12. My kids don’t need to be overscheduled; unstructured playtime is healthy.
13. I will relish the simple moments with my kids.
14. Hugs and kisses can heal a lot of ailments.
15. I don’t have to raise my kids the same way my parents did.
16. I am not a martyr. It’s okay to ask for help.
17. When my kids are grown, I’ll miss the toys on the floor.
18. My children’s faults (stubbornness, etc.) may be assets one day.
19. It’s okay to say “no” when someone asks me to do something.
20. Fresh air is good for everyone.
21. I won’t feel guilty about taking a nap.
22. The next time I’m at the store, I’ll buy something for me, not the kids.
23. I will love myself just as much as I love my kids.
24. I will praise my child for what he does right.
25. I am a terrific parent!
As Kathryn reminds us, “The world is tough enough; don’t make it harder by being unkind to yourself.” When you’re having a difficult parenting day, rather than beating yourself up, read through the mantras above. Find one that resonates with you, or let them inspire you to write your own. Better yet, keep a list of mantras that you can refer to over and over again when needed. Mantras are a powerful and effective way to get you over the potholes of parenting and back on a steady course.
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